Subj: Jesus.Posted: Thu Oct 30, 2008 at 07:49:25 pm EDT (Viewed 573 times)
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I’m sorry that Rhiannon and I haven’t been that active on the PVB lately. We’ve been weathering a family crisis which looks like it’s going to get worse in the days to come.
Over summer my wife of twenty years, Sally, decided that I was impossible to live with and expressed an intention to separate. Attempts I’ve made at a reconciliation have so far failed. Sally is determined to move from the family home and take the children with her. The children don’t wish to go. The divorce papers arrived last week and Sally is claiming that I’m responsible for an irretrievable breakdown of the relationship and should therefore pay all costs for a divorce, give her custody of the children, a lump sum, and maintenance payments. On 13th November I’m in court at the start of what promises to be a lengthy, gory, and expensive custody battle.
As you can imagine this has been the emotional equivalent of a series of sledgehammer blows to the head. I still love Sally and I’d have her back in a heartbeat. I hate the idea of us being opponents and having to fight. These events have been a shock to family and friends (many of whom I’m only now getting round to cluing in; this is my weekend for “going publicâ€Â) and a horrible trauma for the children. It’s been a factor in my recent decision to change jobs to something that gives me much more time flexibility. It’s why I’ve not felt particularly inspired to creative writing.
That said I’m trying to maintain as normal a lifestyle as I can for Rhiannon, Alex, and myself, and the PVB is part of that world. I just didn’t want posters to misinterpret any long pauses in activity or occasional snarkiness as reflecting on them or their work.
IW
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I have no idea why, but for some reason, I thought this might be it.
I have absolutely no useful advice to offer you, I'm afraid.
As far as I know, Adam is the only one of us who has been through a divorce, except from what I can recall, it was relatively amicable.
Even though I'm not married and still poor, between you and my dad, and starting to feel guilty (and worried) about my relative level of "success" lately - shit like losing one's job or spouse is the kind of thing that, traditionally, I'd expect to happen to me sooner than to anyone else.
Is there something you need us to do? Something we can do?
I can try and post my next nearly-complete Parodyverse story, and share bullshit about the election, but I'm not sure that actually helps any.
Here's hoping things work out for the best, for you and your kids.
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